When you’re trying to get to know someone, you don’t want to go somewhere too fancy or loud, or someplace where you aren’t able to have a conversation (like a movie).
Think sitting down at a coffee shop or grabbing a drink somewhere chill where you can get the conversation going, and then transitioning to dinner afterward if you decide you want to spend more time with each other.
#2. Dress well
Wear something you’re comfortable in, for sure, but you should still put some time and effort into looking nice.
Think about the atmosphere and dress code of your date location too—ladies, no need to wear those Louboutin heels to a coffee date at Starbucks.
#4. Don’t put a ton of pressure on the date.
Maybe on the inside you feel desperate because you’re still single and don’t want to be, or maybe you’ve had a huge crush on this person for a while and really want it to work out.
But just take a deep breath and relax for a minute. The purpose of a first date isn’t to decide if you want to marry this person—it’s to decide if you want to go on a second date.
#5. Look out for red flags.
When you’re starting to like someone, it can be hard to notice red flags. But that doesn’t mean they’re not there, you guys. And right now, in the early stages, is the best time to notice them so you can decide what to do with them.
Red flags could be anything as subtle as interrupting you one too many times during your conversation, or as huge as violating your physical or emotional boundaries.
No matter what, make sure you’re doing everything you can to keep yourself safe. You don’t have to tolerate any foolishness, okay?